It’s with the eyes

james shone

By James Shone

It seems rather ironic to be talking about eyes when I can’t really see but I am so struck by the importance of eye contact.  It can be so helpful for validation within a conversation and also in offering ‘balloon inflation’.  Eyes can be kind, understanding, loving and empathetic.  So much can be gained by good eye contact.  I am always encouraging my children to look at me when I’m talking to them.  Children can find it much easier to look elsewhere when an adult is speaking to them but I feel this is a basic that they need to be taught.  It’s so essential for engagement with others, supporting the emotions that we feel and so often can convey a deeper message.

So my challenge is that we should make it a priority to engage with young people using good eye contact and to teach them how important this is.   My sadness is that in this increasingly digital world, there is less eye contact being made and I think in a small way this can make a difference to the wellbeing of those young people that need support.

“The Eyes are the window to your soul”

William Shakespeare

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